Human Design: Motivation Guilt – Not Guilty

In the Human Design System, our true motivation is our special way of coping. Motivation Guilt is often misunderstood. Let’s talk about it.

Motivation Guilt?

I’m motivation guilt myself, and in my early twenties, before introduced to Human Design, I wondered, retrospectively, why my true power shows in crises. Real crises. Not these semi interesting crises. In those I lost my nerve badly. I mean real crisis. When everyone else loses nerve. They more adrenalin rushes through my veins, they clearer and calmer I become- knowing exactly what needs to be done.

Yeah, it’s not that I did get it always right. Because what I did not knew back then is that I as a Projector have to wait until invited. I spend so much energy trying to solve other people’s problems – getting frustrated when they didn’t do what I told them to do. Because I knew best what needs to be done to fix things- right? Or I hoped that other people would make recommendations on how to solve my problems – they did, but girl! I knew better.

Drama and Crisis?

Yes, and I have to admint it, I often – subconsciously – initiated crises because, when life gets boring, you know, a little drama here and there spices things up…. what a waste of energy and tears.

I took me the longest to handle my motivation.

In transference, every motivation acts as its opposite.

Motivation Guilt: Learnings

First, I had to learn to wait for the crisis, because they come quite by themselves.

Secondly, I had to learn that it is not required to fix every damn problem on this planet, especially not other people’s problems. Because some peeps are relatively happy with their problems, for whatever reason. You have to accept that.

Third, I had to learn that I cannot fix EVERY problem, no, not even me. I try, I try to outsource the solving process, I forget about it …. and shift my focus on something else. If I cannot solve it or find someone who helps me solving it, it is non of my business anymore. For real. It’s like pushing in the wrong dircetion.

Fourth, most important: I have to fix my problems. Yes. I talk about transference now. As much as I always loved crises, as much I’d hoped for things to fix themselves. Never worked. Luck and miracles solely happen in the process of fixing for me. I get depressed when hoping on something – hope… that word alone makes me so feel so powerless.

As a projector, when I need to fix something, these are the only times when I feel compelled to actively get things done. Make the call; write these emails, doing the research.

And no, I don’t feel guilty.

Love, Leni

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